Dating someone four years older
I’m dating a guy who is three years younger than me.
This is something that, for whatever reason, almost always illicits weird reactions from people.
Do you like to feel the occasional rush of adrenaline and stimulation?
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.
After all, you didn’t exactly grow up at the same time.
I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough.
Here are 10 things you’ll only understand if you’re dating a younger guy: You realize that most people think that age equals maturity. Just because I’m a girl I can’t date someone younger than me?
When they find out my boyfriend is younger, one of the first things people ask me is if he’s immature. I obviously don’t think he’s immature if I’m dating him. People I barely know are always asking me, “But aren’t you worried about you guys not being on the same page? You’ll get used to those moments of realizing your childhoods were just a little different.
I mean, sure, there are some things that are different about dating someone who isn’t your age, but for the most part it’s really not that big of a deal. The most common reaction to the age difference is total shock, followed by the question “But how did you meet? Sometimes when you’re with him and all of his friends, you might feel a little out of place. You learn that people are rude enough to ask questions like, “But why would you date someone younger than you?