Middle age men and dating
I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.A number of gentlemen I’ve met shouldn’t have been dating at all because they are still grieving.And the most surprising phenomenon that I’ve witnessed in this pool of men is that being a pretty, happy, vivacious “cool chick” is a big negative strike against me.In 2006, 40 percent of Americans over the age of 45 were single, something that many of them would clearly prefer not to be.
Also, the way single people meet is completely different now.Dating sometimes seems like the only road out of the land of singles, and for the middle-aged, it's a road filled with potholes.Many people in midlife have family obligations that limit the time they can devote to dating.I’m a 42 year old single mom who is very attractive (I look about 7 years younger), fun, has a great smile and laugh (and does both a LOT), emotionally stable, and not looking to race to the altar.
And I definitely fit the definition of a “cool chick” – and my guy friends will confirm:-).” Unfortunately, the pool of men that I’m dating from (early to mid 40s, usually divorced) are pretty messed up.Today, nine years later, the answer to that question is very clear: Yes and no. Instead, you'll have short, to-the-point conversations (which include making plans) via Facebook messaging, texting or email. If your guy (or girl) is gaga over you, he or she might be into having a conversation while seeing your face.